Relationship Goals Series by Fawehinmi Bibire



A lot being going through my head then I checked what else I haven’t talked about, then I decided to talk on upkeep and appearance as a key to starting good relationship. Thou this might be a very broad topic to discuss but I will try to make it as short as possible.

A friend once said, “I walked into a company and the first comment I got was; I love your outfit, you look beautiful. And when she got to the interview panel, that same lad who gave the comment was one of the panellist and of course, we all know looks and appearance matters during an interview no matter the field, be it entertainment, finance, oil and gas etc.

A friend got talking and connected with a reputable member of the House of Representative of Nigeria on her flight back to Nigeria from South Africa due to her looks and appearance.

Some would say, it works and it’s much easier for girls than boys, here is a male friend that got connected and talking to one of the Reputable business mogul through his dressing, looks and communication skills.

Trust me, if you can imbibe the few points that I would discuss below, you will be happy you did.

1) You don’t have to own all the wardrobe before you look good.

Many of us make that mistake of looking forward to when we open an enormous wardrobe full of different attire before we look good. People would tell you, I don’t have clothes, so I am not interested in going out. So all you trying to say is that you only have leaves or what? as clothes. Even while some people own the whole cloth on their wardrobe, they will still be complaining about lack of cloth and why they can’t dress well. Is that enough reason for u not to dress well with the little you have? Trust me, one thing we have to understand is how to bring and combine the few you have together and come out looking good. Embrace the habit of surfing through the net, check fashion site on how to combine the little you have if you not that of fashionista. Ask people how gorgeous you look, be correctable and be confident.

2) Be neat, Be clean.

Imagine a young lady with a large wardrobe and variety of cloth yet you keep wondering why that individual dress the way they do. Some lad and ladies are just so dirty and unkempt that if you visit their wardrobe, to distinguish the dirty cloths and the clean ones is the most difficult thing to do. Once they return from an outing, same place they hanged the washed and neat cloth is where they hang the sweaty and dirty one. If washing is so difficult, please do well to employ the service of laundry service. Even with an old cloth, you can look presentable and warm, so you have don’t have to go on cloth shopping every summer for you to look good? No, even with that, if you have the wrong mind-set about appearance, you will still look scruffy in the new cloths. You can’t be looking shabby and dirty and expect a warm communication or greetings from people.

3). Let it become a habit.

Some of our young people now have the mentality or can I can habit of looking good just when they are going for an interview, business trip, hangout or meeting. The People in the above mentioned places, can’t you meet them elsewhere asides the formal setting, so a bank manager can’t be in a bus, a panellist can’t trek or you can’t accidentally be in a gathering of the right people.

When going to class as a student, you have to be tidy, kempt and clean that even your course mates can distinguish your personality. As a worker in bank, let your customers look at you and tell you, * you look good*, your tie doesn’t have to be sideways because you were rushing out or work rush. You see a lecturer on a Monday morning with some kind of outfit that you can’t give a name to because you are confused as to whether he/she is wearing a corporate English outfit or our traditional outfit. Just because you are a mechanic or driver doesn’t mean you look dishevelled when you aren’t on your work site please.

Let being neat, looking good and presentable be your habit and reasons for dressing. Wash, iron and arrange your clothes in a tidy way, let it become a habit, look good, smell good to enhance the good personality you portray or have.

4). Please don’t deceive yourself. 

Little can I do in writing all things here, I tell people, mind-set is all. I can’t enter and clean your mind, I only pray the words I preach would cleanse and change your mind-set. You can’t keep deceiving yourself thinking you are deceiving people. We have some categories of people that their outward appearance is just what you will fall in love with, just pull up their shirt or blouse, gosh!!! You will be disgusted by the colour of their singlet or lingerie. Let’s leave that aside and come to where they live………. trust me, that’s another article to be discussed. Bags, shoes all in same corner, dishes lying fallow in the zinc for days, dirty cloth and washed ones all together……. please, let’s just forget that cause it’s something we can’t finish talking about.

4). Learn to plan ahead.

Some people just have the habit of rushing things in their lives…like rushing to iron shirts to for work, interviews, meetings, etc. 30 minutes to when they will set out common among our men and ladies on the other hand, just wearing the un-ironed cloth like that especially chiffon tops. why can’t we all have the habit of planning ahead, like ironing shirts for the whole week or more, clean socks, tie, lingerie etc.

Those that are allowed not to plan ahead are the set of people who know they won’t be doing anything for the whole day asides lazing around, it’s allowed of them not to plan ahead.

In conclusion my dear Readers, even in worshipping God, we have to be Holy, clean and pure. With our looks and appearance, we either make of mar our personality and chances of meeting the right people. Remember to always look good, smell good.


BY: Fawehinmi Bibire



Fawehinmi Bibire

It is a fraternal bond



Even though cries from the ocean is still young, and Commoner’s Speech is still climbing the ladder of international acceptance, both of them have one thing in common; and it’s the fact that, they are both collections of poems. Commoner’s Speech was written during my days at the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, when I had a practical first-hand experience of students’ movement from a Pan-African socialist perspective. I remember my first political tutor, under whom I acquired my unflinching Pan-African ideas from, Onyinye Gandhi. I saw him at a political rally, where he gave a short but ever clinching words about why students should never sell the students’ movement out to the State. After his speech, he came down from the podium, handed me a short note which read, “Hello comrade, please meet me tomorrow night at FAJ Block 5 Room 305 at 08:00 pm sharp, Gandhi”. I laughed hard at myself, “me, Oracle, comrade ke?” I felt too highly revered to have been addressed as a comrade; and the reason for this was not farfetched. In those days, to be addressed as a comrade meant that, one was intellectually sound, physically down for intellectual debate any day, anytime; and that one was not treacherous to his own beliefs and ideas, especially to the Awovarsity Union. But honestly speaking, that I doubt still exists. From FAJ Block 5 Room 305, I became a new human, with an added machinery to choose my path of life. Perhaps like another close comrade recently remarked on my page, I am known to thread the soft path of life. How will I not thread the soft path of life, when I am from the lineage of those who know life from its core? Few months after, the proscription on the Awovarsity Union was lifted by the school management, and the little perspective I had nurtured for few months had germinated into confidence, as such I contested for the Secretary General of the Students’ Union at Angola Hall. But I lost with a vote. Bisi BEST, that was the name of the winner, a student of Pharmacy, who also had his ideological inclination from the “Stalinist” group — PACE. I still remember that cloud of thick bitterness over the face of Comrade Gandhi. He was shocked that PROGRESSIVE STUDENTS AGENDA (PSA) had lost to PACE. He was surprised that his thoroughly trained intellectual prodigy had lost to another. He felt we lost due to manipulation of certain circumstances. But I retraced my steps, and instantly got it right. Ha! Ha! Ha! I forgot to heed to one “Pan-African” warning from an aged mystery man. Even though till date, I believed Bisi BEST won, because one who later became an inseparable part of my revolutionary journey, had shared some ideas on how to manage his campaign.

I first thought of Commoner’s Speech few days after my matriculation on March 18th 2008 (yet I was admitted in 2007…one of the academic struggles of Great Ife). But there was no elixir that would propel my thoughts yet on how to write each topics I had carefully set aside for Commoner’s Speech. But there was one person, whose physical appearance always ignited a hidden smile in my mind, and that was Adediran Adeyemi Adetola. We met first on February 23rd 2008 within Angola Hall. I saw him with a friend I can no longer recollect his name at the moment. They each held a novel, perhaps not a political one. He was wearing one stripped multi-coloured polo, with one black jean and a rugged “All-Star” sneakers. He greeted me warmly. His friend barely answered me, I think it was because I was wearing one “Adire” material with an inherited gospel wrecked brown sandals. Yet he tapped my shoulder and we discussed briefly. He told me his room number and I told him mine was Block D1, Bed 4, Angola Hall. I think he stayed in K11 or something like that. I checked him more than 4 times but I always met his absence. I was eager to share my political ambition with him, but another comrade, not my mate in age and field work; Comrade Weber quickly warned me he felt Adediran Adeyemi belonged to the Stalinist PACE. So, I withdrew a bit from pursuing his trust. Yet, I couldn’t get his confidence off my mind. So that was how I ended up writing “Reasons for Pen”, the first poem in Commoner’s Speech. I met him again sometime around March 23rd, few days after the matriculation. It was for a different purpose which led to a little misunderstanding and which we later settled when the great mind, Onyinye Gandhi brought us together after the emergence of Comrade Deviano as the Awovarsity Union president. I practically lived my remaining days of first year in Comrade Gandhi’s room, FAJ Block 5 Room 305. He was feeding me with the little food he could lay his hands on, and  he never stopped feeding my mind with materials and intellectual discussions. Oh! Less I forget, my perspectives on “Aluta-E” (love) had a lot to do with his as well.

By this time, Adediran Adeyemi Adetola would come to the room, whop my ass on the PlayStation with his Chelsea formation, even though I tried many times, he ended up scoring me “just one or two goals”. I looked at his lifestyle, Adediran, I looked at his high hopes, and found a common ground with mine. Our eagles soared higher before we even moved to the second year. We became popular, while some referred to us as political twins, most reactionaries simply labelled us “mistakes of Law”. After the first year result came out, the wrong appellations simply disappeared. We proved them wrong academically. This was how I wrote the third poem, “The Orchard”.

Truth is, each and every poem in Commoner’s Speech was one or two events which I witnessed alongside my Comrade, Adediran Adeyemi Adetola (Africano). It was never easy. He loved the theatre as well, but unfortunately, his political love life emotionally abused his love to watch plays at the Pit-theatre. Towards the end of our fourth academic year, as a child of spiritual roots, my consultation prevented me from participating in the last political activity year of my stay on campus. I began to see life not just from the political point of view, but also from a spiritual cum cultural perspective. Oh! Unfortunately, Comrade Onyinye Gandhi and Comrade Destiny had graduated. So, my spiritual and cultural perspective, which I had now mastered and successfully found footing for in my Pan-African ideology, was developed by myself without any western influence. But surprisingly, I made a call to Gandhi thereafter, and few days after our discussion, he mailed me some materials from likes of Kwame Nkrumah, Julius Nyerere, Amilcar Cabral and others. This was how materials For Cries from the ocean too was gathered. For your information, I never missed any convocation plays. I was perhaps even more recognised in the department of theatre arts than Faculty of Law. If not for my last academic year where I attended classes regularly, and for my distinctive looking Afro, some of my lecturers would never have known me. In my last days at Ife, I had several long discussions with Adediran Adeyemi. I found out that his Welfarist-African perspectives too had metamorphosed from just a political movement to a culturally inclusive pattern as well. Gradually, in my heart, I knew my second anthology was already set for writing. I completed some of it while in Nigerian Law School, Enugu. Most of my mates were busy running around reading either Corporate Law or something similar to our looming fate of call to bar. I never slept inside the room I was allocated, except for days it rained heavily. I always slept outside in my shorts, with my old Nokia N98 phone that had nothing else but FELA KUTI’s songs. I knew I would not fail the exam. You said why? I had made necessary inquiries, and was only told to do what was necessary of me (always try to prove yourself right).

The last poem in Cries from the ocean, “The Jailer’s Lamentation” was inspired by the event that happened in 2011, when Adediran Adeyemi Adetola was wrongfully suspended by the School management for a course he stood rightly for. I remembered I was the one who picked up the suspension letter from the Faculty secretary, in Law. I remembered that sad day both of us were walking down the stairways of the Faculty of Law, when a lecturer suddenly appeared, he was known for always saying he held everyone’s destiny in his hands and that he could choose to release it or destroy it. He spoke, just like a reactionary that he has always been. Adediran Adeyemi held my left hand with his right hand afterwards and quietly said, “I will scale through”; for the first time he called me by real name in four and a half years, he said, “Enoch, they think we will not be successful, they think they can break me by this suspension; they do not realise that we are physically and spiritually supported by God…” then he said, “I think what he said is just a Jailer’s Lamentation”. I thank God for a good memory, but I thank GOD more for how well I have lived and how far he has taken my comrade, Adediran Adeyemi. I wish to thank you for reading this work. (

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These are some photos taken and edited by Ayo’de. His photography theme concentrates mostly on urban facets of life. Talk of love, city-life, youthful styles and many more. Today, Ayo’de is one of the fast rising photographers emerging from the great Ibadan city. He is a brilliant artistic youth, with a well groomed focus on his career. Watch this page for more of his works.

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When shall the ones in diaspora return ?
I ask when shall they set foot upon our soil again?

When shall the sun from Kumasi no longer scare our brothers from their sunset of police Brutality?

When shall Trevor Martins leave America for Lagos or Accra or Freetown? Don’t wait till another young blood is spilled.

Africa is home,
come back home,
though not as deceitfully beautiful as the shining metal of death pleading self defence;
yet, it can be as beautiful as the words of Marcus Garvey, surely as real as the honourable blood sacrifice of Malcom X.

When are we going to claim the Nile as ours?
When shall the princes of the North accept who they are?
When shall the nation at the feet of Africa sow its torn xenophobic clothes?

I sprout forth from thee,
yet you are a seed planted in me,
growing always with me,
I am from Africa,
for I’m first a Man labelled, Blackman.


how the logo for akewi arts house was derived

I remember the concept behind Akewi Art House started as “Pagos Arts Society”; then it became “African Literary something something”…lol… then I focused more on who I am and how I wish to become who I think I am. Surprisingly, through the ancient means and ways came the final name, Akewi Arts House.

Designing the logo took me another two years even after the name was already kept safe in my heart. I would sketch some of my thoughts into lines and shapes but it never worked. Not until one day, one beautiful day I was at the Lagos International Airport; an old man approached me from far. He said, “Son, I love your appearance, you depict Africa…” he rocked his agbada and left, probably felt fulfilled.

I laughed it off, and I simply forgot about it. As God would have it, right beside me was a close relative of Chinua Achebe. I did not know until he looked at the back cover design of my book, Commoner’s Speech. He introduced himself, and asked for a copy, which he gave me a good amount of money as an encouragement.

On getting to Akanu Ibiam International Airport, I took a taxi down to Augustine Nnamanni Campus of Nigerian Law School, Enugu. It was while at the “owner’s corner” of the pale green Toyota Camry, with a lovely music of Oliver De Coque, serenading my African spirit that the encomium of the old man I met at Lagos International Airport rang a bell in my head.

I brought out a pen I had persuaded my father to let go for me. It was a black and gold fountain pen, probably nothing close to what a new generation lover would appreciate. I had dropped my handbag as well in the Toyota Camry’s trunk, so I had to use my ticket flyer as a jotter. Unfortunately, nothing much was achieved for another ten months concerning the logo for Akewi Arts House.

During my service year in Enugu, I rented an apartment (No, it was a face me I face you sort of accommodation) with a colleague. We shared the room and its duties. While he cooked our beans with little or no palm oil and hustled for pure water, I would be in my corner with one hand thinking about the logo for Akewi Arts House, and also watching the pot from being pushed off our little stove by the guerrilla chickens with whom we shared shelter.

At night, I would usually go to the roof of the newly constructed building within the compound, with my flashlight and writing tools, hoping that the inspiration would come. Alas! It never came through that means.

It finally came on a Monday morning. I followed my senior state counsel to appear before a court of justice in Enugu, concerning a land matter. I was bored and angry that day, not just because of the congestion in the court room; but because most lawyers in the court room that day were busy exchanging pleasantries while some were on their phones, and never even bothered to learn from the Judge (who himself barely heard three cases before rising).

As I stood up with the files and headed out of the courtroom, I passed an accused person, he looked at me and smiled, I tried hiding my disappointment with the day’s proceedings by showing him my front broken tooth as well; he proudly said with his Igbo accent, “my lawyer with Africa in his head”… My senior state counsel laughed at me hysterically and asked if I had known the accused before, I simply told him no. Nevertheless, I could not get the man’s words off my mind. That day, exactly 3’O clock, I bought a cardboard paper, ruler and pencil, and I drew the logo for Akewi Arts House. Unfortunately, I never knew the accused person’s name or even his nature of offence. However, until this day, I salute his creativity even while in captivity.

First, it was Commoner’s Speech (2011 and 2014), then recently followed with Cries From The Ocean (2015)… If things go according to plans, Akewi Arts House will have a well packaged traditional launching for both of them later on this year in Nigeria.

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Sometimes, Nigerians wonder where the many challenges of our nation stem from. However, when you learn of the fact that Nigeria loses as much as USD15 billion  as a result of not passing one law, the Petroleum Industry Bill (PIB), then one cannot help but understand that the inadequacies in our system must be addressed.


It is also difficult to imagine that in 16 years of the National Assembly – as presently constituted – the almighty PIB that should have been passed, signed and implemented in past sessions has continued to reincarnate itself as the ‘ever-elusive PIB. What this means is that the additional revenue that could have been accrued that would have led to the provision of additional roads, hospitals and schools for the citizenry are currently non-existent.


Many of us remember the valedictory speech of the former Senate President, David Alechenu Bonaventure Mark, at the end of the 7th National Assembly, where he pointed out that they had basically failed Nigerians by not passing the PIB in concurrence with the House of Representatives. However, with efforts underway to ensure that the 8th National Assembly is different from its predecessors, under the leadership of the Senate President, Dr. Abubakar Bukola Saraki, and the Speaker, Rt. Honorable Yakubu Dogara, the hopes of the speedy passage of the PIB in the early years of this All Progressive Congress-led administration seem not only possible, but entirely plausible.


Recently, steps taken in this direction have once again awoken the hopes of industry players and Nigerians that there is hope to reignite the passage of the PIB. A few weeks after taking office, Dr. Saraki, while hosting the Managing Director of Shell Petroleum Development Company, Osagie Okunbor, and his team at his office, stated that: “The PIB remained a priority in the Senate”. He added that: “We have to engage, discuss and dialogue. We can break this jinx. But it can only be achieved devoid of politics and politicking.”


Also, while the Senate President inaugurated the Senate Committees, he did not mince words in charging the Petroleum Upstream, Petroleum Downstream and Gas Committees to immediately swing into action so as to make quick passage of the PIB possible. He stated that the leadership of the Committees were carefully chosen to help complete the reform process that will make the nation’s oil and gas industries more adaptive to international best practices.


The administration of President Muhammadu Buhari has pointed out on numerous occasions that they are going to be open, transparent and accountable and this is what the PIB seeks to achieve in the petroleum industry. Efforts in this respect have also been quite visible, based on the speech made by the current Minister of State for Petroleum and NNPC Boss, Dr. Emmanuel Ibe Kachikwu. While going through his ministerial screening, Kachikwu remarked that: ‘’Once you begin to break it up into critical aspects, you begin to make a faster run to passing the PIB.”


In this regard, the coast keeps getting clearer. The legislature has pointed out that it is ready for the PIB to become law. The body language of the executive seems to also be in sync with the process.


Recently, Speaker Dogara eloquently took over the crusade by joining forces with Saraki to champion the breaking down of the PIB towards easier passage. This is a pointer that a joint task force of both arms of the legislature will be in the utmost interest of the country as it will ensure that more people-oriented bills are passed with the least amount of delay.


These developments make for interesting times, as if the PIB is passed, the emergence of the dynamic-duo of Saraki and Dogara as the leaders of the 8th National Assembly would be truly ‘Godsend.’ If by the end of the tenure of the 8th National Assembly, they successfully marshalled their colleagues to pass the PIB in sections as they are proposing then, the Nigerian electorate as well as the leadership of the 8th National Assembly can beat our chest that this administration has risen to the height of its potential.


Better days lie ahead for Nigeria in terms of governance, and with this new partnership between the House and the Senate for the greater good, it is indeed a clear indication that this assembly will not waste a day of the four year mandate given to them by the Nigerian people.

-‘Demola Adeyeye  loves the Legislature. He tweets via @AAAdeyeye

Podcast— ENOCH OJOTISA on Dublin South 93.9 FM

Here’s the link to listen to the interview of ENOCH OJOTISA, the author of (Commoner’s Speech) and (Cries From The Ocean).

ENOCH OJOTISA, the African revolutionary poet*

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ENOCH OJOTISA hails from Ibadan, in Oyo state Nigeria. He is a lawyer, writer, poet, and a devoted African cultural revolutionary. He published the collection of poetry titled “Commoner’s Speech” first in September 2011, which was when he was in his fourth year at the prestigious OBAFEMI AWOLOWO UNIVERSITY, ILE-IFE, while studying law as an undergraduate. He republished the book in 2014 with a publishing company in the United Kingdom. The book is sold on over 2000 online websites and stores. The book has been performed both as spoken word poetry and as a moving-theatre, at public venues freely for the people in several places by his arts oriented company, #Akewi-Arts-House. He recently concluded works on the audio version of “Commoner’s Speech” which is scheduled to be released in July 2016. The book can be purchased on major sales websites such as;

COMMONER’S SPEECH is a collection of poems, which informs the outside world of Africans; mostly, of the tribulations that are enshrined in their civilization. It relates simultaneously, the edifying cum philosophical ethics that have gone into oblivion; and newly transferred neo-millennium anti-African social norms. Actually, it has lucratively navigated the root of our political implosions, which have caused the twinge of power which Africa now experience all over her territories. But in other to save Africa from a misleading notion of ‘hasty generalization’, the author, ENOCH OJOTISA, decided to use the political on- goings in Nigeria, as a metaphorical cushion in place of Africa.



ENOCH OJOTISA has successfully opened eyes of willingly Africans to magnitude of history, culture, tradition and quality liberty of belief in Africans as African born, as paraphernalia of change for a recovered Africa. Apart from revealing the façade behind the nations’ wealth of mineral resources, which have been traded with corrupt imperialist countries’ support, by African rulers: the piece, COMMONER’S SPEECH, also reveals the besmirched fashion madness, which like a disease has infected a large cut of women in the social order.

The book, COMMONER’S SPEECH, narrates a cavernous legend of hurts that students’ movement leaders have passed through. Bags of students’ movement leaders, who out of true fortitude of change and revolution suffered a great cause were mentioned and fittingly praised. The spirit behind ‘COMMONER’S SPEECH’ is a clarion call to stand up and back the revolution of change in the country.



CRIES FROM THE OCEAN was recently written by ENOCH OJOTISA, and was published by his own arts encompassing company, Akewi-Arts-House ( The book was published on the 29th of July 2015 online only; and can also be ordered in print via major marketing websites such as

This time around unlike his first collection of poetry, CRIES FROM THE OCEAN is more of African cultural thoughts and spiritual dispositions that have long being forgotten. This book tries to lure its readers through the means of spitting fire of life into the Yoruba gods; depicting them as means of communication with Yoruba cultural heritage. The book also brings to attention, the philosophical magnitude in the ancient poetic gift that is bestowed upon ENOCH OJOTISA.

Lastly, as an African revolutionary, ENOCH OJOTISA dazzles the minds of his readers by reinstating the unflinching support for activism at all facet of life by writing poems such as The Jailer’s Lamentations, The Nation in the Dark etc. Presently, ENOCH OJOTISA is into printing, publishing, media, Editing, photography, and music. In fact, he is a professional Afrobeat Saxophonist. He is currently open to any good musical opportunity thrown at him. He has to his credit being into music for the past twelve (12) years. Other details about him and his works can be found on  and he can be reached through his email ( He is on Facebook as ENOCH OJOTISA (Akewi).


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This night,

foremost night of rebirth,

 in countless months.


To this paper and my ink,

to our new friendship and splendour,

like Lazarus, I’m back to my ink being.


As this winter runs through my spine,

sending shiver down to my marrow,

your tender voice has sent power to my feathered ink.


I have found my long gone muse,

muse from the ancient world.

Tonight, I’ve found my lost asset.


Once again, I say,

in the core of city axis,

I have found my long lost trust in passion.


Ja meine liebe,

Yes my dearest,


lassen sie un sein fleisch sein,

let us be one flesh.


Lassen sie diese neue,

freundschaft steigen.

Let this new bond soar.


Meine dame, von der stadt Hamburg,

My Lady from the city of Hamburg,


ihre augen sind engel,

your eyes are angelic,


gluhend wie das gold der Mansa Musa von Mali.

glowing like the gold of Mansa Musa of Mali.


Dies ihre liebe wird fur immer in Erinnerung.

This your love is forever cherished.